What Is Personal Transformation?

I've never met this man, but he has probably saved my life more times than any other person or group. Bill Ferguson is a former divorce(!) lawyer who in 1985, closed his law practice and devoted his life to showing people how to heal relationships and have their lives work. Please enjoy this article from a very special guest.

In one of our workshops, we do an acknowledgement exercise where participants create a cycle of loving, supporting, and empowering each other. Then they walk though a process where they actually experience God in each other.

The result is a very profound state of oneness. People experience a connection with each other and with life that is beyond words. Upsets and problems disappear. All that exists is a deep state of love, freedom, and peace.

Then we look at the nature of this state. People discover that, in this state, the circumstances of life have no power. Fear and upset cannot exist. Judgment disappears, and the past has no relevance. Even the ego and the concept "me" disappear. All that exists is love.

To the extent that you live in this state of love, you are happy, alive, and free. You can flow with whatever happens. You are confident, creative and very effective. Life works effortlessly and great things happen.

When you are in this state, you are living in "the light."

The opposite state is one of fear, upset and resisting. When you are in this state, you close down inside. You get tunnel vision and lose your ability to see clearly. All you can do is fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. Everything you do in this state tends to make your situation worse.

This state is referred to as "the darkness."

The particular state you are in may seem to be the result of what happens around you, but it's not. The state you are in is the result of how you relate to what happens.

A good way to see this is to look at the nature of upsets. When we get upset, the upset seems to be caused by what happens, but let's look a little deeper.

If I spill a glass of water on you, you are going to be wet. This is true no matter how you feel about it. The water, and the circumstances of your life, are outside of you. Your feelings about them are totally irrelevant.

If you are at peace with being wet, or your circumstances, you will have peace of mind. If you fight being wet, you will be upset, and the more you fight it, the more upset you are going to be.

We think that happiness and upsets come from outside of ourselves, but this is an illusion that keeps us stuck forever.

As long as we believe that happiness and upsets come from outside of ourselves, we will be forced to go through life trying to force life to be a certain way. We think that this will bring us the happiness that we seek, but it doesn't. In fact, the more we force life to be a certain way the worse our situation becomes.

Here's an example that illustrates this. Imagine four yellow balloons on the ceiling above you. Now, whatever you do, don't think about them.

What happens when you try not to think about them? You think about them and the more you try not to think about them, the more yellow balloons you get. It's the same way in life.

The very act of resisting magnifies and gives power to whatever you are resisting. Any area of your life that isn't working is an area where you are resisting.

Now think of a time when you were resisting something and then you stopped. You said, "the heck with it", and got on with your life. Notice what happened the moment you let go of the resisting.

The moment you let go of the resisting, you restored your peace of mind and that area of your life cleared up.

Life always works out when we can flow with whatever is going on. It's only when we get our pride and ego in the way that life becomes painful.

We don't notice, but there are two separate realms in life. There is the light and there is the darkness. There is the realm of love and there is the realm of circumstances. When you are in the realm of love, life works effortlessly. When you are in the realm of circumstances, life is a struggle.

Personal transformation takes place once you discover, experientially and emotionally, that (1) the circumstances are an illusion and that the light truly does exist, and (2) that it's more important to live in the light than to have the circumstances be a particular way.

Once this happens, your focus is no longer on forcing life to be a certain way. Instead, the focus is on connecting with God - healing, trusting and letting go.

As you go down this path, miracles become common and you create a life that exceeds your dreams. However, to live in the light, there has to be an awakening.

Something has to pull you out of the circumstances and put you in the light. You need to experience the light in such a profound way, that you always know that it exists.

A powerful way to do this is to attend our weekend workshop, Return To The Heart. You can also do the Mastery Of Life Audio Course.

All of our work is about supporting people in living in the light.

If you haven't done so already, I invite you to read the articles on www.masteryoflife.com.


Bill Ferguson has been featured on Oprah and is the author of the best selling book, How To Heal A Painful Relationship. He leads workshops in Houston and does individual telephone consulting. To learn more about Bill and his work, call (713) 520-5370 or visit www.masteryoflife.com.